Thursday, March 20, 2014

The Mean Girls.

First of all Happy First (official) Day of Spring!! I hope it was sunny, bright and happy for you guys. It was definitely sunny and warm around here. Vivian and I enjoyed lots of sun outside, today.

Secondly, I am having a heart-to-heart with you gals today (whoever reads this blog - which apparently is more people than I thought), because there was a particular (mean) comment on yesterday's post that brought to my attention the fact that I had a whole topic dedicated to this little blog of mine on GOMI (Get Off My Internets). I had actually heard about the existence of such sites but never seen or read one. Anyway, this site takes MEAN, UGLY, CONDESCENDING to a whole other level.

I guess when you have a "Style" Blog which is open not private, you put yourself out there just like with everything else on the internet these days, like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc. It takes guts to post everyday photos of even not-perfect outfits or super casual clothes you throw together, and post them on the internet for strangers to see. You must have thick skin. And usually mean comments do not phase me too much, though as a child I used to be very sensitive. You can discuss my outfits, lack of style, the way I pose, my house, whatever and however much you like but leave my child out of it. For one person to say that I use her as a prop is a bunch of BS. I think, like most females (especially those that are moms) I love pictures, especially those of my little girl. And for some of these people to say that I leave like 1000 comments a day to random blogs is totally not true, also. Depending on how busy I am that day I stop by 8-25 blogs daily. I read about 8-10 blogs on a daily basis and I comment on those girls' blogs very regularly because they are the ones whose fashion sense and styles are more similar to my lifestyle.

It is funny that the people writing this on a forum can say that about me, when some of them have left at least 5-6 comments on that topic alone regarding my blog. The sarcastic part is that this website is called "Get Off My Internets" yet these people are not getting off my little blog, going through archives, reading anything and everything and saying that they detest my style, the way I write, etc, etc. But what can one expect from someone nicknamed "Snarky Bee" or "Electric Sex Pants"?  I guess if it makes them feel better to talk shit about people they DO NOT KNOW IN REAL LIFE at all, then so be it. I am in 'good company' because this website has entire topics dedicated to so many awesome bloggers (some of which I follow and support) as well as several big name bloggers. So I guess I have "made it" after all in this blogging world, since my blog made it to this list!  LOL

Do I think I am a great blogger or the most stylish? Hell no. Do I think I am un-stylish? Also a strong no. Yes, I am one of those REAL women who even post their not-so-flattering outfits or their best ones (yesterday's Military Jacket with my Red Cords is an example of that). You win some, you lose some. We can't look chic every day, just like we don't wake up in a good mood every day. But I will wear my Bird Sweater and my Fox Sweater as many times as I please. I actually happen to love both of those 2 Outfits that were made fun of, in the forum. This is my blog. I will write whatever I want, post whatever Outfits I want, post as many pictures I want and talk about my daughter as much as I want. If you don't like it, no one is twisting your arm to read it. I will much rather have 10 people follow me because they like the content of this blog than have a 1000 who pretend to like me. I always appreciate and value honesty followed by constructive criticism. I won't tolerate people being mean just for the sake of being mean. Snarky people can take their snarky selves off my blog!

To wrap it up, I titled this post "The Mean Girls" because I do believe that most of the people writing on this forum come from women (unfortunately). They make me to be the desperate one who has no life where all they do is check out everyone's blogs and find something to hate, dislike or criticize about it. So make fun of me all you want if that makes you feel better. I will still sleep just fine at night. I will finish this long-worded post with a saying from Eleanor Roosevelt "Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people." And a photo from Vivian because she is the reason that makes me happy and blessed every day.


P.S. Stay tuned tomorrow for another Style Swap - that is only if you like seeing what I have "to sell". It's fine if you don't also. Have a Great Thursday Night and Thank You for reading!! Ada. =)







12 comments:

  1. Oh my gosh Ada! That is awful! The people who write on this forum are so cruel and mean. I always say people who talk crap and talk down about others have insecurities of their own and they do this to make themselves feel better. It's one thing to talk about an adult, but to bring a child into the discussion is just disgusting! You have been one of the most kind and sweetest people who I have come across since blogging and this just angers me! I am glad you addressed this because it's downright ridiculous.

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  2. I agree with you - if someone doesn't like your content, then just don't read! There's no need to make mean comments and try to hurt someones feelings. I love that you include the pictures of your daughter - keep publishing content that feels true to you!

    Jess

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  3. I'm so sorry this happen to you. I know how it feel. They wrote a blog post about my blog 2011 saying that I'm a train wreck. Surprisingly I had a lot of people standing up for me. Which they thought I was sending people over there. Which I wasn't. I find out about this one day from a blogger friend who e-mail me. Also in 2012 they open a thread up to talk about me in it. Which it gone now. Due to someone felt bad for talking about me.

    Just keep doing your thing. That all you can do.

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  4. Ugh. I hate this happened. Seriously, why people find the need to go out of the way just to be cruel I'll never understand. As you said, they could very easily mind their own business and just not visit the sites they dislike. I like that you are you, and I love seeing pictures of sweet Vivian.

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  5. I echo all the comments here already! I can't believe how rude people can be and just downright mean. I try my best to treat others the way I would want to be treated, and I would never say any of those things! It's so sad that there are people out there that feel the need to insult others to feel better about themselves. How much time do they have to do all of this?! It's ridiculous. If you don't like it don't read it.

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  6. One of my pictures last year ended up in their "Worst Fashion Photos" thread and it really stung at the time, but my hubby helped me see that some people just get their kicks from bringing other people down. And like you said - leave your child out of it! As everyone else has said, keep doing your thing and don't let them bring you down.

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  7. I think it's an interesting issue because of a few things:
    1) Like you said they can choose not to read your blog if they don't like the contents... however, you can also choose not to read the snark
    2) I don't think it's fair for judgments to be drawn on either side. For them to say that you have a mental disorder or that you're using your daughter as a prop... etc or for you to make judgments about them. As you said neither party knows the other in real life. The internet can be funny and not show the whole person (or show only the best or worst parts of someone)
    3) I don't agree with bringing children into discussions. Children don't ask for that...

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  8. Thank you so much for writing this!!!! I am sending you so many hugs you have no idea. I have been going back and forth on writing a similar post because I've recently been the target of a horribly hurtful male "internet bully". Remember, that's all they are - bully's hiding behind a computer. If they don't like what you wear or what you post - they can find the brains to click that little botton at the top right of their computer screen and move to the next...!

    There are definitely moments when I want to shut it all down because of those awful people, but then I think of all the amazing and supportive people that I have met through this process. They SO outweigh the negative. The negative is unfortunately harder to shake, but shake it you must! People who write that kind of filth (which I shall not read the article btw) have to be pretty miserable to find joy through hurting others like that. Let them go. They don't deserve your attention or energy.

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  9. Haters gonna hate. Ignore them.

    http://thevulgariangirl.blogspot.com/

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  10. GOMI peeps pick on almost anyone ;). I understand you feel bad about that (I would be dang annoyed too!) but as you know, you don't have to please them.

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    1. You are a woman with your very own style - just keep doing what you like :). It would be so dull if everyone dressed and looked the same!

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  11. I love this post. Good for you Ada!!! These people are disgusting and they need to get a life. I don't understand them, if they had your blog so much then why do they continue to read it and why do they bother to write about it all. These people need to get a life. I'm curious to see what they look like?? Anyways good for you Ada. I'm proud of you. Don't even give these sad, pathetic, vindictive people are more thought. They don't deserve it!!!!!!

    Agi:)

    vodkainfusedlemonade.com

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